Don’t panic. And don’t give up. Stop in your tracks and say, “Devil, move, in Jesus’ name! I break your power over me. Get off of me. You are a liar!” Keep using your authority to rebuke guilt and fear in the name of Jesus. (See 2 Timothy 1:7.)
Realize that control is not just a natural psychological problem; it is also a spiritual problem. As we noted earlier, human nature is naturally controlling. But when control becomes unnatural, it is demonic, and you must ﬁght it every day.
It doesn’t matter whether you feel that you are no longer under guilt or fear, you still must be on your guard. When you get up in the morning, make sure that the ﬁrst thing you do is to tell those controlling spirits to leave you alone. Break their power over you. Command them to go from you, in Jesus’ name. Quote Scriptures to them and make them obey you.
The next time you meet the controller, he or she may not speak to you because you haven’t been in contact or asked for help. But don’t dare feel guilty or try to make up. You have just won your freedom, so enjoy it!
Roberts Liardon tells us that first comes the initial break from the controlling person. After you are strong in the Spirit, and you know that your heart is right, then you can take the ﬁnal step in your complete deliverance from control: confronting your controller!
Roberts Liardon show us that confrontation does not always have to be a battle. But you must be strong when confronting a controller because controllers are not the most logical people to deal with. They have been blinded by their own insecurities. You must say to your controller, “You have controlled me in these ways (name them). I love you, but these things will not work in my life anymore. You must change or we can no longer have a relationship.”