Roberts Liardon describes that controllers try to act like God. Controlling spirits make people serve their own selﬁsh needs and desires. Controllers never consider others. This is the hardest thing to get a controller to understand because, in his eyes, he is so wonderful and so right. He thinks he loves everybody because everybody serves him. This idea is totally false, of course.
That night I preached a sermon on control, and, to be perfectly honest, I directed it right at this man. After the time of worship, the woman came up to the front of the church and stood in the prayer line. As I laid hands on her and began to pray for her, I felt a reaction in her husband, even though he was still back in the congregation, and withdrew my hands from her.
We’ve got a big one here tonight! I thought. This is a major controlling spirit.
So I laid my hands on the woman’s head again, and this time I was determined not to budge because I knew she wanted to be free. “I need your help,” she whispered to me. “You’re the ﬁrst preacher who has let me know what I’m in. I thought my husband and I were living the way we were sup- posed to, but then I saw that other people’s marriages were not like ours.” This woman wasn’t talking about material things. She was referring to the normal interaction between husband and wife: loving each other, holding hands, taking care of the children together enjoying life with one another. That’s what people get married for!
As I prayed for her, she got in the Spirit and began to be set free. Her face started to glow. But then something struck her soul with a shock! It was her husband’s controlling spirit reacting.
“Don’t get upset,” I told her. “Just ﬂow with the Spirit. God says that He wants you to be free.”
Roberts Liardon tells us that it was almost half an hour before she was able to keep her freedom in the Spirit. By the anointing of God through prayer, she was able to see her value as a person. With the Word of God and scriptural counseling from their church, this couple’s marriage was eventually made whole.