Roberts Liardon wants us to understand that when you disarm an abusive controller, extreme emotions will surface. Anger will monopolize the atmosphere, as well as your thoughts, if you are not careful. Angry words will hit your mind like machine gun bullets, preventing you from defending yourself properly.
Keep your perspective clear and precise. When you make a choice to live responsibly, others must live that way also.
Words of failure, defeat, unnatural obligation, guilt, criti- cism, and intimidation often follow. These threats are all used in an attempt to control a person’s life. They are designed to paralyze a person with fear.
The Bible has much to say about the power of words:
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. (Proverbs 18:21)